💌 Letter to myself to remind me who I am💌

Be the light, this dark world needs. There is plenty of stuff your wrong about, a lot you don’t understand ,a lot your will never understand, it’s fine though. At the end of the day what really matters other than being right in various scenarios is your disposition to learn and grow on a daily basis. Toil everyday in this journey of life to develop an open mind, get to learn and view things from different angles. Keep in mind never to have a closed mind as those with an enclosed mind-set will only experience life in an aspect of what is in the box ,there thinking is limited. An open mind-set knows there is something to be learnt from everyone and every situation. Life is experienced best with those who learn and change for the better and not the worst. Life is not meant to be perfect as even the Messiah didn’t live a perfect one .At some points life begins to feel inert, during this time breathe , observe your surroundings, learn to appreciate the current situation because that is your present, smile and relax.

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Take a recess , remember your life is not defined by the days spent suffering or struggling .It is defined by your character, success and everything positive. Sufferings will come , struggles too but keep in mind whatever it is your just going through a phase. During this phases it’s all about you ,try find yourself by reminiscing on occasions that gave meaning to your life. Day in day out try to strive and store these moments, let them get debossed into your mind. The moments that you felt like your more alive than you have ever been. Don’t live in the moment though, as those who live in the moment tend to get lost and lose focus ,live with a plan as it gives meaning to life. Plans create meaning to oneself as through them one is able to get to know what they have achieved and what they have learned from mistakes they have made .Spend time with people who mean well for your daily endeavours .If not be the shy person you are and take life as it is all by yourself .The smaller the circle the better they say. Do things that mean the most to you and your loved ones. No man is righteous, strive to do righteous deeds though cause you never know when you’ll be called by the almighty.

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A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking , because it trusts its own wings , Believe in yourself. Trust no one, there will be those who aim to destroy what you have built and everything you stand for ,no matter what keep building. Always remember that you are still young and age gracefully. Like fine wine you should get better with age . Every child always wants to be adults until they have become adults, aim to be the kid you are and don’t forget to enjoy the process. Try not to overload and stress yourself out for you know what is required of you at the moment , you know the good and the bad. Your still growing and learning , take time to be youthful. The society will always try to make you feel old ,as if your time is running out. Keep in mind the society or world doesn’t die when you do .It was here before you came ,it will be here after you leave so take full advantage of the time you have while you’re here . Don’t waste your time on liabilities in the name of having fun . You’re not behind or ahead of anyone, your exactly where you need to be. Observe others on their lanes ,watch them grow, give them support and wish them the best of luck. Its all about doing the possible and trusting God for the impossible. Never compare yourself as a life lived in comparison is a life half-lived ,live yours entirely. Never try hard to fit in ,stand out for you are custom made. Do good and only good for yourself and to others as karma has its eyes on you ,even if you don’t believe in karma remember their is God’s equilibrium that says ,Do unto others what you want to be done unto you. Give humans a show of a serenity, let them be enamoured by the path you’ve chosen to follow. Show people what it means to be alive .Always be a lesson to someone who has left you and let yourself be their loss.

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💔HEARTBREAK💔

A heartbreak is an allegory for extreme emotional torment, it is undoubtedly the worst feeling in the world. It involves the social attachment system of the human brain and heart. It is mostly associated with a relationship loss. I wouldn’t know or feel how it feels to get heartbroken if I had not experienced it .There is no immunity to a heartbreak so no one is safe. The word itself is an ironical word as you don’t feel pain on or in your heart. The pain is felt usually between the bottom part of your ribcage, on the celiac plexus to be precise. The brain always thinks that you are experiencing physical pain ,as it is telling your body that the pain is real. This pain is the constant pushing and pulling of the very foundation of one’s emotions.

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Hearts are myogenic they don’t break, it’s just that we think that they do because we have been lead down the road of unwarranted belief systems. Heartbreaks create imbalances in the entire neurological system. They are various reasons for heartbreaks nowadays, but those that stand out are; cheating by one party, lack of understanding between the parties in a relationship, arguments, lack of giving attention, mismanagement of time which revolves around being there for the other party when they need you, having doubts, keeping secrets, pride, assumptions and getting frustrated at each other due to stress caused about managing career and love life at the same time. As humans we are all born and raised differently, those who are trained that the mind is stronger than their emotions are likely to have a slight immunity to such situations.

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The world we live in has few psychopaths and sociopaths so the majority of us are not safe. Wisdom of the heart rules love, this is to mean that love is an emotion of itself ,it doesn’t comprise of other entities such as protection ,care or any other feeling. Love begins and ends. No pain no gain they say, in the war of love their warriors and those are the ones who heal from heartbreaks. In situations where both parties started the relationship from friends to allegedly soul mates, the pain is usually unbearable ,this is because the more the deeper the roots the more it makes it difficult to uproot a tree. After a heartbreak we often try to get over the feeling in any possible way, just like drug addicts face withdrawal the brain goes into withdrawal mode thus making you think about them more, love is more addicting than drugs.

Heartbreaks and depressions go hand in hand ,this is because when one is heartbroken his or her self esteem is affected. The sense of self ends as the way we think about ourselves changes. You get lost and wonder who you are, leading to you to asking yourself questions such as, what did I do wrong to deserve this , others even lose their faith and blame God for the misfortune. Getting lost leads to existential crisis that’s why you find opting for suicide to escape reality, instead of looking on the bright side that today’s break up is better than tomorrow’s divorce. The world is an unfair place as others never experience heartbreaks while others do, let’s say it’s fate. All heartbreaks are painful, a fact based on research says if you experience a heartbreak the likeness of a second one increases by 75 %.The reason why heartbreaks are painful is because of the attachment and unfulfilled expectations. The loss counted to your statistics when we lose someone is what hurts, something that could have been forever isn’t now. Expectations hurt in proportion to the emotional investment ,the fear to face life without the other party is what kills us during heartbreaks. In one lifetime ,you will love many times but one love will burn your soul forever. SOMETIMES WE FALL IN LOVE , SOMETIMES IN LOVE WE FALL!!! 💔

LOVE❤️

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A four letter word with two consonants & two vowels .Out of a mind it came. It can be defined by you & me differently as we are all entitled to our beliefs & opinions. Some say LOVE is when what you want is never important but what the other person wants is always paramount. I’m no doyen on this sector, but I know that love is an inexhaustible impetus that can’t be figured. Love means not looking for something better or seeing what’s out there as some might say, it is committing to that one person because you know they complete you in every possible way.

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As a jigsaw puzzle piece fits in another piece perfectly without altering. Love is heartbeats syncing but not literally. It brings people together from different backgrounds, ethnicities and other broad aspects. Your heart belongs to that one person who doesn’t want to change you in any way. Happiness has never been seen but the face of the one you love has no difference from it. To others it’s the foundation of any positive thing. To love is to offer joy & relieve suffering. To love is when you lose the sense of everything when that one person’s name comes into mind. If so, love is seen as a positive impact feeling ,why are there so many heartbreaks, arguments cheaters, suicidal cases caused by love, trust issues and insecurities just to mention a few. Love has its negative sides too. Even from the bible we learn that love comes with suffering for instance Jesus went through a lot for the sake of love for mankind. It’s the greatest commandment after all .It’s a combination of links between the mind & heart. At times love means crestfallen, it means broken hearts, it means blood red eyes, it means trusting and believing in someone implicitly only to be let down unapologetically, it means learning the worst way that you can’t force things to be as what we expect them to be. As they say expectations are the mother of failures. It is also based on the society ways of life, for me society’s perspective is basically a way of corrupting the mind & makes you feel like a slave to it.

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But, the final chapter of love is always seen vividly, it’s all about recession, the feeling of not having to be specific in any way with someone, not wishing to change someone into someone else. It’s all about being with someone, either right or wrong you rather stay by their side till infinity. Knowing someone more than anything, knowing their deepest secrets and not judging them. Fighting for what you have till your last breath, not letting go like your life depends on it. A love that is abundant like matter, continuous with a permanent abiding. It’s about making time for them , staying faithful, respecting your partner, trusting someone blindly , loyalty and any other positive thing that life has to offer for both of you as a whole .It’s about allowing your heart to be their home. Love means thinking of someone, dreaming of them, wanting & needing them constantly and hoping they feel the same way for you. Asking nothing but only love in return.

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